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So, how do we see all of each other? I’m learning more and more about seeing others fully. Hernandez and colleagues with the cast of Queer Eye As a former TV news reporter, I’m all too guilty of using the easiest category, or the most visible part of a person. Words are important, but most people want to boil it down to one or two words.
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It’s easy and convenient to identify people by their job, where they live, their name, their skin tone. I often laugh about that episode but as we celebrate Pride this month, it’s a reminder that we need to accept all parts of ourselves. Later I realized I was actually enabling the group to separate my identity into different buckets. You could practically hear the wink, wink, nudge, nudge in her voice, and a sparkly rainbow suddenly appeared over my head in the conference room as I realized: “I’m here to be the gay guy on the board!” I quickly code-switched to gay guy, instead of brown guy. (There’s usually only one person from each ethnic group is in the room.) Then when I was introduced, the woman who recruited me made quite a point of saying “and he sings with the Heartland Men’s Chorus!,” which is Kansas City’s gay men’s chorus.
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I was surprised when I walked into my first meeting and there was already a Hispanic person sitting at the table. I was once recruited to join the community advisory board of a local organization. The wider community rarely acknowledges this intersectionality, even though I’ve literally had a couple of parties at my house filled almost exclusively by our group of gay Latino friends. People have focused either on my identity as a Latino or as a gay man. As in “please mark all that apply” on the demographic survey. My entire life I’ve been a double check mark.